Nice to see that this is what we have representing us. Mrs. Close has been outspoken and critical of the district since the Wasser debacle - way before Mr. Messinger decided to become involved at all. Sounds like he listened to the same people who wrote anonymously in the NJ.COM forum about her and what he did afterward was not right nor was it ethical. But let's see if anything will come of this.

Having watched the tape of meetings, including the one mentioned in the article, I would have to agree with Mr. Messinger.

You have to be an "unhinged lunatic" to seriously think anything on the FRHSD board will ever change to the benefit of the students and taxpayers.

These comments by Mr. Messinger are similar to those that have been posted on the NJ.com forums both in language and content by the Benji squad including Milton McC. It seems that Ms. Close is not going to sit (or stand) idly by and not fight back against bullies. Good for her! The more the community knows about this the better it is for everyone. Whether or not Mr. Messinger intended it to be seen by anyone other than to whom he sent it is irrelevant. The fact that he was stupid enough to write it and sign his name demonstrates he doesn't have any common sense and shouldn't be representing the fine town of Marlboro, especially on the school board. I bet his handlers are pleased at how this turned out.

I agree with you George. Benjifranklin and Mr. Messinger sound exactly the same. I think someone from the forum tried to make the connection between benji and MM before. Same style of vicious slander. One thingh I know about Mrs. Close - she will not abide bullies, not now, not ever.

What's really sad is that Mr. Messinger did not even acknowledge that what he said was in bad taste or even wrong. He really believes those comments. These comments indicate he has no moral scruples or filter. I'm sure his family is proud of the attention he has brought to them.

"Even though I think she claims to be a Republican, they don’t want her in Manalapan.” Same statement Benji made on the Manalapan forum, verbatim. I think we may have stumbled onto a big deal here. Go get 'em Gloria!

Looks like the Marlboro rep. is saying that Manalapan voters are stupid.

Just to be clear, my supposed "friend" who shared my email was Victoria Dean, member of the Marlboro K-8 BOE. In addition, there is no ethics complaint filed against me. Ms. Close has to have the School Ethics Commission determine if there is anything here to warrant "charges." If Victoria Dean had not spread the email to Ms. Close no one on planet earth ever would have seen it. The only other person to spread the email is Ms. Close! The only two people to see the email before election day were Victoria Dean and myself. Neither of us is eligible to vote in Manalapan so it had zero impact on the vote. In my BOE role I try to stay non-partisan. My reference to Dems. and Reps. was only to get a rise out of Victoria Dean since she is a big supporter of Republicans. I was not taking any political sides. If any of the anonymous posters here have a question please show up at the next BOE meeting and I will be glad to discuss this to the cows come home. (These comments are my personal view and do not in any way represent the Freehold Regional HIgh School District).

So now the cat is out of the bag. The real person who triggered this is non other than the wife of the Marlboro Republican chairman. Why would she have given a private communication to someone in another town if not in an attempt to stir up a hornets nest. Aren't emails or messages between two people considered confidential? The only thing that comes to mind is that Dean and her friends thought they could make political hay over this. Isn't Victoria Dean the VP of the Marlboro school district? If she can't keep a confidence between her friends, how can she be trusted with privileged information about the schools and the kids?

Wasn't there another bogus ethics case brought by Dean over another private email that destroyed a persons reputation in town and in the end the state said the entire thing was without merit.

Didn't Dean also file charges against a person on Town Council for political purposes that was also thrown out.

It looks like Dean has a pattern of throwing around false charges and revealing private communications.

I can't trust someone like that.

Turnabout would seem fair to me.

Remember the character on Rowan & Martin's Laugh In that would say, " this is getting very interesting." Well it is. If what I am reading is true, we have a "Republican" just recently appointed by Mayor Hornik as an alternate to the Planning Board, and Ms. Victoria Dean, wife of the Republican Municipal chairman of Marlboro, who may vote to increase taxes in Marlboro for having armed guards in schools--slugging it out!!!!!........ Wow!!! can't make this stuff up!

Keep writing Messinger, the more you write the worse you look! outing a person who shared your horrific email about another person and you not even thinking to say your sorry for what you wrote...you send private messages just to get a rise out of some one you at least once called a "friend".....wow your just outstanding!

This is typical of the Messinger/Benji crowd...Change the subject and put the blame on someone else who had the guts to stand by a friend and reveal the vileness of these comments. Mr. Messinger, please tell us where you received your degree in psychology to diagnose Ms. Close in those terms. Since you can't or won't recant that message, you blame someone else with the intention of taking the heat off yourself...That pig won't fly and that cow won't come home...and to Benji and Mr. McC, how about coming out of your anonymous cages and go to the next board meeting and speak publicly in support of Mr. Messinger.

....and by the way, as Mr. S stated in his public comments at the meeting, for you to use that kind of language, taking repugnant liberties with what you thought was demeaning psycholigical terminology to ridicule Ms.Close, at this time, so close to the Newtown murders by a mentally disturbed individual is beyond comprehension. This country is going thru a major cultural overhaul in it's need to seriously deal with the whole spectrum of mental disorders. For you to invoke those terms in an attempt to cast aspersions against Ms. Close because you don't like what you perceive to be her policies is unforgiveable and just dumb on your part. What kind of person would do something like that? What are you afraid of if she actually won? Do you seriously believe all those lies you spewed? You have no shred of evidence by anything she's ever said to prove your misguided points. But go ahead and blame someone else for revealing how low you really are.

I have seen some of the meetings and to be sure Mrs. Close often conducts herself in such a manner that I am left wondering if she actually understands what is going on. I have seen where she lasjes out at the people on the dais and and personally gone after Mr. Messinger who did not respond to her acusations. I have also seen where she launches into what can only be called temper tantrums when she did not receive the answer she expected.

The real issue here is not one of someone's personal opinion of a political candidate but the subject of confidentiality between two people communicating in private.

I believe we need to examine the process of just why Victoria Dean is behind this whole hoopla. She has publicly lambasted the mayor, not based on substance, but based purely on political agendas. In fact, it is my understnading that she openly criticized the Marlboro Twp Administration at the recent BOE meeting by reading a prepared statement.

Where is the priority here Mrs. Dean? Is it your political agenda and aspirations or is it the welfare of our children. If you disagree with the actions of the township and the coard of ed then it is your obligation to vote against it. On the contrary, you voted in favor of the swift action taken by the township and the school district.

It is disingenuous to hold one opinion and vote another.

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As far as CuriosGeorge is concerned, it is obvious that he is a rabid supporter of the failed candidate in Manlapan and will use any linkage he thinks will draw attention or support, no matter how distasteful. It is a waste of time to focus on such disconnected zealots.

I think the "friend" who betrayed Messenger should be brought up for ethics violations! What a trouble maker! Taking a private, sensitive exchange between "friends" to the people he was talking about is such a cheap, low blow. The recipient of the message is very obviously lacking any ethics or morals. I hope he comes forward with the name of this Judas!!! Isn't the man allowed to share a private opinion with a "friend"?? I hope in the future he chooses his friends more carefully too.

Private Facebook Message? Really? George Carlin would have had a field day with that one. It's 2013. Nothing is private. Wake up.

Question. Is Mr. Messinger and benjifranklin from the Marlbor & Manalapan forum one and the same? They write exactly the same. Mr. Messinger, will you deny this publicly?

It was a private conversation....so guess if u called ur own boss a butthole or unhinged lunitic to someone on a private message on facebook u deserve to get fired...he is entitled to his own opinion and was done in private.....this lady going to the board to complain is funny..OMG He called me names he must be taken off the board...GROW UP and get over the name calling....not like he stole money or had affairs....

Mr. Messinger did nothing wrong! What you say in a private Facebook message to ONE person is the equivalent to a private conversation... Its not like he slandered anyone publicly.. RIDICULOUS! Whatever he said is just his opinion... Not sure why this is even being discussed in this forum..

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Looks like some nerves are being frayed here. Last I looked there were 38 comments here--now there's 34, plus this one. Someone is deleting certain comments, lol.

SALTS. (Smiled A Little, Then Stopped). Doesn't Sir Elton John have a song dedicated to these women?

Let me understand this. Those of you who are defending Mr. Messinger are very critical of the Deans for their political activities in Marlboro that you disagree with in no uncertain terms. You do recall that Mr. Messinger sent her that email because he considers them his good friends. With friends like that, who needs enemies?

Are there any adults in the room?

Harry, aka one of Bonnie Sues cronies, I read in the patch article about the marlboro boe meeting and this same writer and I understood it that Mrs. Dean did not criticize the administration for the decision she spoke about all the publicity the town received because of Hornik going on every t.v channel and to every paper he could that brought attention to the schools security or lack of....state the facts Harry. Also Ira Levin posted earlier about a private conversation Mrs. Dean had with Messinger concerning her kid who is a FRHSD student...so what's the difference if she showed Close a private fb message than Messinger discussing a private conversation with everyone in town????
Sounds like a double standard to me....

Please keep in mind that these are only my opinions and have not been confirmed or denied by anyone mentioned in my post.

1. It seems to me that there is an ethics complaint against Mr. Messinger by Ms. Close. His response is that he only wrote his negative remarks to get a rise out of Ms. Dean. In my opinion, he did not consider Ms. Dean "a friend" as friends typically do not do this kind of antics to their friends. This "non-friend" allegedly shared the statements with Ms. Close. He got what he deserved. He wanted to get a RISE and he got one. Why is he complaining; he got what he was looking for.
2. He claimed that Ms. Dean is a "big supporter" of Republicans. To me, if that was completely true, then she would be supporting him since he has indicated for many years that he is a Republican and has regularly attended local republican meetings.
3. It seems to me that the only reason that these statements have come out is because he wrote them. Why can’t he just own what he wrote and stop complaining that someone else revealed what you were "man" enough to write during the election process when you were clearly pushing for a specific candidate to be elected? Did anyone ask for his opinion about Ms. Close or were his opinions unsolicited? If unsolicited then in my opinion there was no breech of any confidence.

To the editor; I appreciate efforts to moderate comments which often include name calling and attacks on people’s families including children. However this should not include statements that are not factual. See 1/11/13 at 9:31am which has since been deleted. I would have appreciated that true journalism occur and questions be raised to present facts. For example:

1. It isn’t true that Any Dean brought an ethics charge over any private emails.
2. Mr. Dean did file an ethics complaint heard outside of any campaign because a councilwoman's husband provided services to the town for which he was paid. Regardless of the dollar amount or how long it occurred there is no-bidding for those services. Instead of clarifying this point, the moderator's response advises the previous poster that they are referring to Mr. Dean. How would they know who they are referring to (when the statements are not accurate) and why would the moderator not set the record straight especially in light of indisputable facts, that the previous poster, Moms Thoughts, is not telling the truth? Hasn’t this case has been raised to a higher level which has yet to be ruled upon.
3. Does this enforcement of the Terms of Use include efforts to limit posts to factual information when accusations are made against those named or is this only upheld when Mrs. Rosenwald and members of her family are the subject of ridicule?
Thank you for your anticipated professional and courteous response.

Chris Dean was initially part of the bogus complaint against me as his name appears as part of the transcripts from the hearings. His name stopped appearing around the time he sought the Republican chair position. I have those transcripts should anyone wish to see his name on an official document.

I find it very interesting that the only people who use terms like handlers, cronies, and man enough, should be able to identify themselves by name and not to hide behind screen names. I find it very hard to listen to your opinions about someone manning up and taking responsibility for what they say when you don't want to be identified. If you feel strongly enough about what you write you should feel strongly enough to identify yourself.

Josh, I agree with you 100%; however, it's understandable why some people "hide" behind screen names. It's The fear of physical violence. How many times have we read that someone got killed or hurt for either posting falsities or even the truth?

But with this thread--which is getting crazy--I agree with you.